Handling serious disease matter

The first time I came across serious healthcare matter was back in Form 5. A friend was diagnosed with leukemia. He subsequently skipped SPM, wait til another 1.5-2 years, he passed away. Talented guy, at times challenging with strong personal opinion. If he were to be alive, I am sure he would be someone big. A whole bunch of classmates went to visit him, 2 times. I remember the last time I have personal conversation with him (while waiting my mom to pick me up, it was raining pretty heavy) I told him that he will make it through no matter how. The next time we saw him things got pretty serious, he was bed-ridden. I think some of us went into the room to say hi but didn't linger more than 5 minutes. Most of the time we spent talking to the parents.

The second time was a case of brain tumor. A friend whom I have a quickie with. It happened after about 1 year later. Talent guy in graphic design. Passed away after 2 years of struggle. The family was pretty wealthy, hence there were pretty much of travelling and time spent with parents. I loaned him my external hardrive for a year because I thought watching porn to relax/ get horny could potentially help him to drive his livelihood. He didn't touch the hardrive so I cannot say if it helps. The last conversation we had- he adviced me to buy insurance because it would really be helpful at times of great health challenges. I don't doubt that, I didn't buy any extra medical insurance apart from the existing medical card I am having.

The third time is now, my relative. The drama happened like 1-2 months ago. Little information was provided because they don't wish to create more drama, I believe. Though this is the 3rd time I faced people with serious health care issue, this is the first time I faced one with family relationship, alone. I don't know what to talk actually. I didn't explain why I came after so long when I actually stay like 30 minute away from them. All I spoken was work, property and some part of his condition. It seems that they are also trying to bring up topics other than the disease. I wasn't prepared. I said goodbye to them and the jubilant kids that know little things about the world. 

ps: If there is way to heal everything. Anyhow, communication is really important, next time I go I will be well prepared with topics and keep the visit to only 15 minutes. I took 20 minutes today. 

pps: Life is fucking short and unpredictable right. Make things happen fast.