First of all, I have not read the Holy book. Thus I can only express my opinion based on reasoning of what I have learned till this very moment lah.
To me, sexual orientation is not like ur WANTED it to happen, it is like how u get attracted to guys and guys are attracted to girls. It is like "inborn" or developed from childhood "naturally".
Regarding the "inborn" part, I am not sure how is the truth that claimed that DNA of homosexual are different or "defect" from straight people.
Regarding the "developed from childhood naturally", the kid may have gotten contact with very complex conditioning since young and thus, make the development of homosexuality (as well as other groups such as Transpeople or intersex or whatsoever lah)- natural occurring; I mean like, no one would expect certain messages or stuffs can induce the change in one's sexuality? A man's meat is another poison, right? So the existence of this sort of "messages or stuffs" (Not necessary porn or any sexual scene, I like guys before I know what the hell is sexual intercourse =.=) is considered faith? Which is controlled by the Divine (God-like)? And NOT everyone become GAY or LESBIAN when they got contact with the so-called "messages or stuffs", so why they have the kecenderungan? Again, izit "inborn"?
So, if the "inborn" idea is correct- God controlled how and what we are born, and if the "developed from childhood naturally" idea is correct as well- God controlled our surrounding, then I may concluded that homosexual is God made?
And sorry for membear-bear, friendship and love are RELATIONSHIP, me AND you. Homosexuality is a matter of sexual orientation, that ur attracted to either male or female, like I LIKE motorsikal and you LIKE Car. To me lah, sexual orientation and relationship are totally different matters.
And I don't considered myself as abnormal. U see, I can hang out straight guys like Jason, Jayson, Simpson, and John. I am not attracted to them. Thus, in terms of relationship as friends, I care for these people when they are sicked lah, I offer herbal tea and ubat lah. I don't go to kiss their forehead before they sleep or hold their hands when I am walking around. And they know that I am gay. But when it comes to my previous bf, I may kiss them or hold their hands (in private lah~) Hence, I can say that I can differ what is FRIENDSHIP and SPECIAL RELATIONSHIP with the guy I like. And then I know I am aroused when I see a male, or female.
I am not sure whether if sexual orientation can be CHANGED. I guessed if I were to attempt doing it, I will have a great time screwing up my brain. Thus I chose to be the person I am and be proud of it, I am not killing anyone if I practice affection towards a same sex?
Please correct me if I am wrong, because I wanna know the answer as well. I have too many questions to ask. Sigh~
Ohya, I wonder if Dr. Alvin would like to check if I have got anything wrong with my mind, which generated the ideas above.
Cam-whore a while before presentation to keep calm last last week. LOL!
Interesting. (:
ReplyDeleteThanks. Give it a thought lah
DeleteI agree with your opinion that it was granted. I wish if I would like men, I'd be better by being a women and vice versa. Things would be much easier. But life is not a bed of roses.
ReplyDeleteIt is frustrating when lay people think gay men likes all men when the "normal men" don't necessarily like all women aren't them?
From my conversations with my gay friends, most of us shared a similar background.
1. we are the youngest whose siblings are males (which will produce eyes-rolling when people wonder why we don't do sports like our older brothers)
2. with the above condition, so our parent do hoped we were born as a girl.
This not necessarily applied to all.
For me, in addition to the above conditioning, my mother has a longing for soybean milk during her pregnancy (and I myself like soymilk too!) and soymilk is said to containing chemical that act like estrogen. So maybe I was indulged in lots of estrogen when I was in the womb.
And nowadays only God knows what chemical contained in the hormones that were injected inside the live-stocks.
I think I like men like how I am more interested to stalk a handsome face (men) than a pretty face (women) but I still remember when I was 10 years old I accidentally opened my brother's porn web link and I do get an erection to a photo of naked women. but now I like penises more.
I wondered if watching porn too soon also make me like this.
From Islamic view, some of the scholars said that we are being tested by God in this world. We are required to restrain ourself not to get involved in the prohibited homosexual intercourse so after death we will be rewarded generously.
It is definitely a very difficult test for me T_T
sorry for the long comment
Scientific reason, I buy.
DeleteI always like to ask this when people talk about God-Test-Us: Why god is so free? He/she got nothing to do ah? Why so free wanna test people? After we pass the test? Then? More test? When is the end? Why is the purpose of the test?